December 2, 2007 | Sex Life

Playing with shiny beads

They are nothing more than a set of beads on a string, but when used correctly they can make an orgasm extra-special. They even come in different sizes, from cherry small to softball big, though if it's your first time you'll probably want to start out with something more sphincter friendly. Yes, we've all heard of Anal Beads. However, have many of us ever tried them?

Anal Beads can be used in two very different ways. One, as a normal part of foreplay. And two, as an enhancement during the very moment of ejaculation.

When you and your partner are just beginning to fool around, Anal Beads can certainly add to that sexual spark. For this you simply need to lube up the hole and gently relax the sphincter with a massage from a finger (or two). Help your partner relax before slowly inserting a couple beads. No shoving; this isn't rush hour on the subway. Let your partner feel each bead, and then relax.

Once they are in, they now need to come out. As you pull on them, remember to allow your partner to once again feel each bead. Take your time. Watch as his cute little rosebud expands and then closes again. For tops this can be very arousing as well as they get to see how the bum hole stretches to accommodate the toy; it's as if the ass is actually winking up at you. [more]

Now, the second use of the beads comes a little later. Continue to make out. Explore each others body. Masturbate. Suck. Lick. Nibble. But as your partner is about to climax, when he's really close, begin pulling the beads out again. Remember, there is no rush. But watch his face as both his ass is stimulated and his cock gets closer to exploding. The result? A volcano of jizz that would make Mount St. Helens blush.

A word of advice: most Anal Beads come with an attachment at the end that you can use to retrieve the beads. If yours does not, remember to keep at least one bead out so that the whole toy doesn't get lost inside. If it does, you'll be making a trip to see a doctor and will need to explain how your "aunt's pearl necklace" got lost in there.