Sex Life

You'll have to wait a couple years, but a new boner pill is in the final stages of testing with the Food and Drug Administration. And unlike Viagra and Cialis, biotech firm Vivus' Avanafil promises a hard-on in fifteen minutes.

"The magnitude of success in the first 15 minutes was surprising," said Vivus CEO Leland Wilson. Compared to Viagra's 30 to 60 minute reaction time, and Cialis' sluggish 30 minute to six hour turnaround, Avanafil may be preferred by those looking for a quicker pecker upper.

Porn star Dave Cummings already sees huge benefits for the industry. “There are some men — me included — who seem to get only marginal assistance from the presently available products, or who can’t take certain products due to prescription meds they take that might adversely interact; thus, the use of Avanafil might possibly fill the void for those men,” Cummings said.

Awesome. Because waiting half an hour before you can fuck is like watching paint dry. Unless, of course, you believe in foreplay. 

Erections Faster With New Viagra Rival [XBiz]

Meet our newest best friend, Grindr. Yes, it's an iPhone app, and an amazing one at that.

Consider Grindr a GPS system for finding other gay men. Click on your Grindr icon and the app will automatically list other horny guys in the area (complete with photo and details) and where they are in relation to you.

The app's creators explained its many uses: "New in town? Tap into Grindr to check out who’s on the scene. .... Hanging at home? Make Grindr your go-to place and see who’s looking to meet up tonight. No matter where you find yourself, Grindr is the go-to app for socializing in seconds with the guys around you."

Now, for the record, the app was designed for meeting other nice gay men for a cup of tea or a movie. Because Apple has very strict rules concerning nudity or sexual content in the apps they approve, Grindr is not promoted as a tool for cruising or quickies.

"[Apple does] not allow any nudity or profanity — so we have censors who work 24/7 to review each profile," says Joel Simkhai, Grindr founder and CEO.

And Grindr makes sure users understand this with its own rules: "Your photo should not contain any frontal or rear nudity, nor should it be excessively revealing, sexual, or obscene. Consider what you would upload as a reasonable public photo to other social networking sites and apply those rules to Grindr."

Sites like squirt.org and dudesnude.com will likely never have an iPhone presence because these rules are too limiting.

"[The people at] Apple are a bunch of control freaks," complained Phil Anderson, owner of dudesnude.com. "They try to keep all the control with themselves while trying to portray a clean, family-friendly image."

Bugs are icky. Lice are very icky. And pubic lice are the ickiest of all!

But there may be a small -  we pray a very small - group of men who are into crabs -- and not the eatin'  kind.

"Me and my buddy, Insex, have had broods in our briefs for a long while now, so we thought to ourselves, well, there must be somewhere online to get together with other people but we couldn't find one," explained the site creator, Bugger. "I mean, how else are the bug chasers going to score the prize? There used to be a group on Yahoo but it has been deleted. So Insex says to me, Bugger, we oughta do up a web site. And I say to him, Great idea! And here we are."

The result: A website called lovebugz.net, where information can be shared with other entophilliacs (bug fetishists). They even suggest the type of pubic lice to use, which are non-biters from Japan.

The Sword wondered aloud if this site was really a clever dig at that other form of bug chasing (where men have unprotected sex with HIV+ partners in hopes of contracting HIV). Or it could be a spoof site. Or - say it isn't so - it could be the real thing.

Dammit, why do we suddenly feel so itchy down there?

When Bug Chasing Means Fetishizing Public Lice [The Sword]

If you're still looking for that perfect scent to compliment your manliness, then Masculinity was made for you.

Mixing French basil, West Indian clove, Asian mandarin and Sicilian bergamot with the scents of amber, cedar, black pepper and leather, you've got the makings of something sure to lure the man of your dreams ... or send him running in the other direction. That's a whole lot of smell if you ask us.

But what really makes Masculinity interesting is the addition of an exclusive N10Z male pheromone formula.

"Decades of research demonstrates that in our mating behavior, we humans also follow our noses,” claimed an AOL Health article. “That’s because of substances called pheromones, which we now know influence sexual behavior not only in animals, but also in humans.”

The pheromones themselves aren't something you smell; they are picked up by our vomeronasal organ, a chemical receptor in the nose that stimulates the emotion section of your brain.

A two-ounce spray bottle will set you back $55 starting this December. That's a lot of money to smell like potpourri!

Masculinity: ‘Because a Man Should Smell Like a Man’ [AVN]

A new safer sex campaign called Slip It On has hit New South Wales "featuring a series of pop art-inspired bananas aiming to make condom use more a-peel-ing for gay men." Safe sex AND a banana? You know we had to tell you about it!

Now the link to the formidable and phallic fruit is very deliberate. "The banana is healthy, highly visible and widely available,  just like condoms should be," explains ACON, Australia's GLBT health and HIV/AIDS organisation. "Many of us can probably even remember the banana from demonstrations in our high school Sex Ed class!"

The website designed for the campaign, acondom.org, features all the important details of safer sex and how to get the most enjoyment out of adding a little latex (or a lot of latex depending on how well endowed you are) to your sex play. And there's even a fast paced flash game (that kept giving us cyber herpes!).

Check it out. Have some fun. And Slip It On!

Slip It On from ACON Online on Vimeo.

For the most part, park sex around the world is illegal (unless you are lucky enough to live near Amsterdam's Vondelpark). Do it and you could be charged with indecent exposure. You could go to jail. You could get yourself a not-so-welcome criminal record. That, friends, is a disclaimer. Public park sex comes with certain risks. Know what they are.

That said, there are many men who love nothing more than heading out in the middle of the day for a romp in the secluded woods down the road, or who slip out to walk the dog later in the evening when the only light is from the half formed moon. It's anonymous, freaky fun that attracts married men, famous dudes (who could forget George Michael?), politicians and regular joes. So if you're going to do it, you might as well do it right!

First, you need to figure out where to go. The most up to date website, with listings in almost every country, is squirt.org. You can get a free limited membership which lets you post questions, read advice from other cruisers, and get up to date information on police activity in certain areas. [more]

Michael Brawn wants to help you love cock the way he loves cock ...

If you're into kinky fashion and skin tight spandex, then David Mason has something just for you. His clothing line, Slick It Up, may not be suitable for the family reunion but it is guaranteed to turn heads (and turn on quite a few people in the process)!

From full body suits, to hoods, to candy pink thongs, there is a lot to choose from. And even if you don't plan to buy, you should check out the website for some hot shots of porn stars sampling the product. You'll even find Mason decked out in some of his own gear.

We spoke with Mr. Mason (and even tried to convince this designer-slash-hunk to consider porn as a second career). See what he has to say, and check out some hot pics, after the jump ...

Gillette helps guys make their crotches all sexy ... 

CruisingForSex.com has dubbed May “Cruiser Beware Month,” a campaign designed to remind men of the potential legal issues surrounding semi-public sex. May was selected because, with the warmer weather, newscasts tend to focus more heavily on gay cruising that other times during the year.

“May not only is the time of year when the weather heats up and more guys head to the bushes for action, but it is also a major ‘sweeps month’ for local television,” said Keith Griffith, founder of CruisingForSex.com. “Sweeps is the time local media often finds itself in bed with the cops to carry out sting operations of men cruising for sex.

“Just last week we got a report from a Bakersfield, Calif., location where one customer saw not just cop cars and a cop van parked outside, but also a news van for a local television station. I’m sure it was a joint sting in which the media gets to film and photograph those men cops arrest. In fact, I would not be surprised to learn a reporter instigated the whole thing, asking the police to come along so they could get some good footage."

Relying on the most current technology, CruisingForSex.com will actually use Twitter to provide instant alerts of potential stings (at Twitter.com/cruisingforsex).

There is also a social action component to the month. A political primer has been published on the site offering ideas for  the decriminalization of public sex.

“The double standard of how laws are applied is especially galling to see,” Griffith said. “Esquire and New York magazines recently did stories glamorizing public sex, but of course their audience was mostly straight, and for heterosexual sex this is nothing more than pleasure. For men cruising other men, you can have your life ruined if you get caught.”

It takes the fun out of public sex when you have to keep one eye out for the police. Or does it just make things so much hotter?

Gay cruisers brace for sweeps month [GayVN]

Viagra and Cialis may soon have some serious competition in the form of a rub on. Scientists at Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York have successfully used nanoparticles to encourage erections ... in rats. (Well, they have to start somewhere!)

A rub on could provide an alternative to Viagra, which can cause headaches and facial flushing. And the little blue bill takes up to an hour to start working; the new treatment would work much more quickly.

Dave Cummings, an adult performer and director, told XBIZ,  "As a performer, one who can’t take two of the present three medications, and one who gets inconsistent results from the other pill, I’d welcome an alternative for multiple sex scene shoots when/where my 69 years of age could use an assist."

Great, but now can we focus on more important things, like how do they get the caramel into a Caramilk bar?

Viagra Rival Can Be Rubbed on Skin [XBiz]

If you are new to playing with sex toys, either alone or with your partner -- or if you aren't sure if you've been taking care of them correctly -- you may want to read on. Sex toys are an amazing way to spice up your sex life, but they can do more harm than good if not used correctly.

First rule: Inspect before you use! When you buy a new toy and finally get it out of its people-proof plastic wrapper, take a few minutes to look it over. Check for rough seams, which can cut into delicate membranes. If made from glass (like a dildo or butt plug) look for cracking; the last thing you want is a trip to the doctor to explain why you have a glass 'paperweight' stuck up your bum.

Don't share! Sex toys should never be shared ... unless you cover it up with a condom. This will help keep any  infections from passing between partners. Sadly our asses, as lovely as they are, are also breeding grounds for bacteria; you want to avoid sharing these things with your partner. If you play with men and women, this is especially important as vagina's are very susceptible to bacterial infections. Never, ever go from bum to vajayjay without cleaning the toy first!  Grab a condom, use it, replace condom, use it on someone else. Easy!

More than just a spring cleaning! Sex shouldn't be a chore, but you do need to keep your toys as clean as possible. And this means wiping off lube, bacteria and other things more than twice a year! For metal and glass toys, hot water and soap is a good bet as these items are non-porous; just clean and then air dry. Yes, you can even place these items on the top level of your dishwasher ... but do you really want to clean your butt plug with your dinner plates? [more]