February 28, 2016 | Sex & Society

Grindr ... a good place for making friends?

A man took to Reddit - the online social news networking site that relies on user uploaded content - to open up about concerns he has with his relationship.

The issue: Grindr. His boyfriend of a year has admitted to using the hookup app, but claimed it is only to make new friends.

He's from overseas, and when I met him over the summer he had a lot of friends from his home country but unfortunately almost all of them had to go back home. ... 

 

I found out he was using Grindr when I saw that he'd been adding guys that I didn't know on Facebook who were obviously gay. When I asked him if he'd been using the app, he admitted to it and said that he was using it just to make friends and that his profile didn't have a picture, said he was partnered, and only looking for chats and friends.

 

I trusted him on this, and felt a bit at ease after talking to him but time and time again I'll start to feel uncomfortable about it. Whenever I brought it up again he'd say things like "you don't trust me, you should trust me etc...." and acts as if he's doing nothing wrong at all and that I'm the one being irrational. He's also super secretive over his phone.

 

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Out of curiosity I downloaded Grindr to find him, and like he said there was no picture on his profile and it said that he was looking for chats and friends which was reassuring. But I also found that whenever I wanted to see him but he 'felt like being alone', I'd check Grindr and he'd be on it pretty much all night, or he'd say he's going to bed but will spend hours on Grindr after that.